tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12272116.post4425954088555878646..comments2023-04-02T09:07:15.247-05:00Comments on Denise M. Hartman: Who am I? Are you ever surprised at yourself?roamingwriterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11798304569822903068noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12272116.post-7141938896383351772022-06-06T15:36:39.652-05:002022-06-06T15:36:39.652-05:00Thank yyou for sharingThank yyou for sharingErin Freemantlehttps://www.erinfreemantle.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12272116.post-25160890746217252692010-09-23T01:10:26.114-05:002010-09-23T01:10:26.114-05:00I am a recovering perfectionist, partly from genet...I am a recovering perfectionist, partly from genetics and partly from how I was raised. As such, I can be very intolerant to others' mistakes, but I am much less so than I used to be.<br /><br />I did know about Martin Luther King Jr.'s many affairs because that was a reason that our household when I was growing up withheld some respect for him. In our household we did not allow any sort of racism, but Dr. King was still viewed as a very tarnished leader.<br /><br />At some point I went through much the same thought process that you mention here. I figured out that we all fail, so if any of us do great things there are aspects of our lives that will taint that greatness. I can appreciate Dr. King's purpose and sacrifice while still acknowledging that he had some major shortcomings. The shortcomings do not reverse the good that he did.<br /><br />One problem with perfectionism is that certain imperfections are viewed in greater proportion than others. Affairs are imperfect and sinful, but so are a lot of other things that exist in leaders that a perfectionist overlooks: Selfish ambition, vanity, pride, etc. If we're equal-opportunity perfectionists then most everyone will fall short of our standard.<br /><br />Regarding Swaggert, I haven't heard enough from him to know how I feel. I don't think I am in his target audience. I think part of his downfall, though, was that he preached perfectionism while he did not live it.<br /><br />After I've said all of that, I will throw one verse out for the perfectionists, since I still have those tendencies.<br /><br />"Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly."<br />- James 3:1shakedusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15380500891984359879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12272116.post-76151675340329685062010-09-08T20:29:48.650-05:002010-09-08T20:29:48.650-05:00I can relate to what you are realizing in myself. ...I can relate to what you are realizing in myself. For me, I've found myself less tolerable the older I get. I am trying to hold to the "no one is perfect, judge not less ye be judged" rule but I can feel is slipping away from my logic sometimes and I have to think harder to pull it up and stick it in the front of the person I am looking at. I also think the more public the figure the less tolerable I am, but I can't find scripture that says "If you're on T.V. you must be better than everyone else."? I wonder, if I were sitting in the crowd with Jesus and the woman being judged, would I have been smart enough to run?Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08970992601452040058noreply@blogger.com